Are you in an abusive relationship or you know someone?

Healthy relationships involve trust and respect, consideration for significant others, and several other qualities. Abusive relationships don’t have these. Instead, they involve mistreatment, disrespect, disregard for someone’s feelings, controlling behavior, mistrust and intense jealousy, physical violence, and what have you. Abuse can be physical, emotional, or sexual but I’ll be talking about the physical part here. Physical abuse causes severe damages to a person. It’s when one person uses their body in order to inflict intentional harm that injures you and puts your health in danger.

It involves kicking, slamming, biting, scratching, punching, strangling, throwing something at the other person, pulling, pushing, grabbing of clothes, using a gun, knife or any other harmful weapon, restraining you against your will, tying you up or locking you in a confined space. Physical abuse with an intimate partner in a relationship is also called domestic violence.

If as a lady, you constantly watch what you say and do in order to avoid a blowup, chances are your relationship is unhealthy and abusive. You always feel like you can’t do anything right and you deserve to be mistreated. If he acts excessively jealous and possessive, controls what you do, and where you go, limits your access to your phones, the car or money, checks up on you constantly, or even keeps you from seeing your family and friends. My dear, you’re in an abusive relationship. These are the habits that trigger the violence in him and makes him assault you. Pay attention to these signs despite the fact that he keeps professing his love to you. An abuser won’t risk becoming abusive until he or she is confident that you won’t leave.

A disturbingly high percentage of girls face physical abuse from their men. Many victims don’t speak up because of fear of judgment. Some think they can change their man and love the abuse out of him lol and some are just blinded by love and probably material wealth. Below is a short story of someone who refused to leave her relationship because of how much she loves the guy and from what was narrated he would always use material things to make up with her.

When I hear that someone is in an unhealthy and abusive relationship, my first question is why don’t they leave? You know if you’ve never been through an abusive relationship the response might seem logical to you. Like why can’t you just break up and move on but I know it’s never as easy as ”just leaving”. They attempt to break up several times before finally leaving for good.

Most physically abusing relationships are filled with demeaning and controlling behavior at the beginning. If your partner constantly belittles you and makes you feel guilty for their aggression and makes you believe you do not deserve any better you’re in one and it can be life-threatening. It’s very devastating and life-altering and the worst part is it happens in silence. It also results in a number of psychological and physiological changes in the body system.

If you’re in this kind of relationship it’s essential you build outside resources and talk about what’s happening in your relationship. They can help you build your self-esteem back without being judged. Don’t wait for the next attack, if you’re threatened by an abuse kindly call, 08098300634. It’s a 24-hour hotline for reporting physical abuse. You can also send them a dm on their Instagram page Heartmindersnig

Sometimes we refuse to see how bad something is until it completely destroys us but just remember; IT IS NOT SELFISH TO PROTECT YOURSELF FROM HARM. A healthy relationship doesn’t drag you down, it inspires you to be better and it will never require you to sacrifice your friends, your dreams, or dignity. You’re in a relationship to be happy, to smile, laugh, and make good memories. Not to be constantly upset, feel hurt, and cry. You can’t change someone who doesn’t see an issue in their action and stop telling yourself you can change him, he’s been this way for a long time, and he doesn’t intend to change. Save yourself instead and get out while there’s still time. Being single and happy is better than being sad and afraid in an abusive relationship. The moment you start to wonder if you actually deserve better, just know you do SO GO AHEAD AND TAKE THAT STEP TODAY.

Hugs and kisses 😘

If you are in an abusive relationship or you know someone does not hesitate to reach the number I put up or dm their Instagram page and if you feel like you’re going too far you can send me a mail or leave a comment I’ll keep you anonymous.

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  1. This is too expensive to be free😌
    Its actually an eye opener
    Thanks for putting this together Tofunmi

    You’re problem solver to many
    Keep it up🙏

  2. A lot of girls really are going through this and keep quiet all in the name of wanting to save their relationship. I really hope this goes a long way to help those in such situations.

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