Being in a relationship requires a whole lot of commitment and I feel if you’re not ready to commit, compromise and make sacrifices just stay single. I can’t be in a relationship when I know I’m not ready for such commitments. Due to all of these commitments, it’s an unspoken rule that they should not cheat. Relationships are not based on logic fam. They’re deeply connected with emotions that must be handled with care.
A very common dealbreaker in every relationship is CHEATING. It’s now the order of the day. There are lots of ways your partner can cheat, it could be physically, emotionally, through the internet(pornographic sites, online dating and flirting with other people in social networking sites) and a whole lot of other ways but I’m talking about the physical cheating here i.e being sexually intimate with someone other than your partner.
Cheating is a choice not a mistake. Y’all that have been cheated on one way or another by someone you loved with all your heart, you understand the pain of being broken into pieces and not being able to breathe properly because your world is suddenly falling apart. You understand how it feels to be a second choice to someone who was your priority from the start. Cheating is an act of cowardice and it was and will never be a mistake by accident. It’s a choice made by greediness. They never appreciated what they have neither do they want to let go. Your love was probably too big for a man too weak to commit to you. You deserve better sis!
I choose and refuse to believe it’s a right and normal thing for every man out there to cheat and I stand by my words. It’s not something you do by accident because you can’t control yourself. Every action you make is approved by your brain which means YOU made a decision to make another human being feel miserable by enjoying your moment of happiness. It is not so hard to admit to them how unsatisfied you are with things. It’s never so hard to communicate and tell them how you feel and fix the problem or you leave and spare them the pain. It isn’t! It’s never! It has never been! Then why didn’t you do it? Oh obviously! Because you wanted to try something new. You got bored with what you have, you got bored of their love and wanted to taste another to satisfy your appetite?
To me, only insecure men cheat! It was never your fault! If u were too good a lady to a guy and he still cheats on you!!! You probably loved a man who is too weak to love you in the way you deserve. Loving someone is never an excuse to let them treat your heart like shit. Every man who is incapable of practicing loyalty is PATHETIC. He’s pathetic therefore you lose nothing if you leave him because damn it you deserve way better sis!
If you truly love someone you make choices that will protect them and make them feel loved. You make choices that will improve your relationship, not destroy it! But you make a choice to fuck things up and break them so don’t you even dare tell anyone you’re sorry because you’re not. You deliberately, willingly and CONSCIOUSLY decided to destroy everything you had simply because you were incapable of loving your partner as a real man does. You deliberately killed their hopes and hearts because you didn’t have any! And after all of these you come back expecting them to forgive you simply because you felt or mentioned IT WAS A MISTAKE? Nah fam! It was a conscious effort. I’m sorry to tell you that love doesn’t ever tolerate mistakes. You’re either committed or not. You’re either here or not. There’s no grey area! Everything you did was a matter of choice. Sis you are worth more than their inability to choose you!
Forgiveness doesn’t mean coming back! I’m forgiving for myself. I’m forgiving because I want to be free from the prison of anger. I’m forgiving because I want to let go and move on. But you see some of these men! They feel once they cheat “she’ll forgive me of course! Why won’t she?” They always feel they’re superior in physical strength and can physically and emotionally manipulate most women if they want to. They see cheating as an affront on their ego. They always feel that being cheated on is the highest form of disrespect because they think they deserve respect as a birthright lmao. They always feel like they deserve loyalty and feel cheating is for men. Some men are so built and wired to think that only women should get cheated on. They think it’s a mans game to do that. Cheating is something men do yen yen yen a women cheating is just wrong. But when it’s a man, it could be pardonable and explainable, put in some kind of way to justify themselves, it could be explained away and make it seem less of an issue lol clowns 🤡. But a woman cheating! Ahh terrible! Too scandalous! Greatest sin! Lmao men! 😂
Society has created this false narrative around relationships and cheating is painted to be a mans game and therefore they have all the right in the world to be forgiven! Hell no I’ll argue this with any damn person. I blame society that makes it look like cheating is a norm among men. Most men will never be strong enough to chose you and that’s okay. You chose them, they cheated it’s not your fault if you were too good and they deliberately refuse to see it and that’s not your issue. You never lose when a weak man loses his position in your life. Only weak men cheat 🤷🏼♀️
You shouldn’t blame yourself for his inability to be the man he promised he’d be. And you can’t keep fighting for a relationship that’s not reflective of everything you deserve. It’s going to be difficult to walk away but in the end letting go is that you have a greater opportunity at self love and a chance to find the one who deserves you. Fuck it! You tried! You’re not obligated to stay with a weak man who refuses to appreciate you. It’s not up to you to keep a man who refuses to be kept. It’s not your job to fight for a man who is to weak to respect and love you girl. You’re the price sis!
Their inability to be faithful has nothing to do with you! They cheat because they’re weak and insecure. Do not give weak men the power to dictate the emotions in your heart to strengthen his ego. They only come back because he sees you’re happy without him and his ego is damaged. He hurt you because he didn’t give a shit about how you’ll feel.
The point of this is not to justify women cheating or saying it’s cool for men to get cheated on. Hopefully everyone sees cheating as something that bothers everyone equally. Women get just as hurt as men when they’re played. And anyone can cheat. Anyone can actually get cheated on, and ultimately, everyone owes their partner the duty to be honest and faithful. And of course, not all men are cheaters. Only the weak ones 🙂
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